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Wednesday
Jan082014

Working with men and relationship issues - opportunities and challenges (Video)

One of the highlights of the 2013 National Men's Health Gathering in Brisbane was the Men and Vulnerable Families Forum Plenary Session featuring presentations by Dr Warren Farrell (USA) and Glen Poole (UK). Titled Working with men and relationship issues – opportunities and challenges, this event explored many contemporary issues around men, fathers and relationships, and how to better support them.

The entire event, including an extensive Q & A session, filmed on Friday 25 October 2013 at 9am, is now available on YouTube.

Chaired by Andrew King from Groupwork Solutions, the two keynote speakers were:

Watch the complete event:

Watch excerpts:

Glen Poole:

Dr Warren Farrell:

Q & A:

Saturday
Sep012012

Finding a way through the pain of separation

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Dean Mason, chairman of Dads in Distress Support Services, whose book, Daddy's OK, will be launched tomorrow. Photo: Jason South

When Tim's* marriage ended more than a decade ago, the Melbourne teacher who was living alone in his small workshop, thought about throwing himself under his power saw - more than once.

"There was a time when I just couldn't get the thought out of my head," he says now. "I came very close a couple of times."

The only thing that stopped him, he says, was the memory of a troubled student he had taught years earlier, whose father had taken his life following the breakdown of his own marriage. That boy's father also happened to be one of Tim's oldest friends.

"He couldn't handle being separated from his kids … but I saw what my mate's death did to that boy and I knew I couldn't do that to my children."

Tim's story of despair is one Dean Mason, a fellow divorcee and chairman of Dads in Distress Support Services - for separated men - has heard many times before.

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Thursday
Aug302012

A happy Father's Day ahead - well, for some men at least

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Every year, tens of thousands of Australian children are not able to wish their dad, or their granddad, a happy Father's Day due to their parents being separated or divorced.

What does that tell us, that fathers who don't see their children are "deadbeat dads"?

In a recent case federal magistrate Tom Altobelli made some surprising admissions in awarding a mother sole custody of her two children: "Their mother has indeed alienated them from their father … the mother's perception of the father is based on illusion not reality … She is not being malicious or malevolent, she is quite simply shackled by a distorted frame of reality … She believes the father is a risk to the children when he is not."

It is remarkable, and a relief, that Altobelli wrote the children a letter explaining his decision. But the isolation still felt by their father must be extreme. Many fathers - or mothers in similar situations - experience debilitating mental health issues while they work through various aspects of being a separated non-custodial parent.

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Sunday
Jun172012

A Father’s Day downer (USA)

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Dustin Hoffman in 1979's "Kramer vs. Kramer." Children need their fathers!

How courts and the culture disrespect dad

By Barbara Kay / NEW YORK DAILY NEWS, Sunday, June 17, 2012, 4:47 AM

From the loving, engaged portrayals of fathers featured in recent popular movies like “The Descendants,” “Moneyball” and “A Better Life” — all three performances were nominated for Academy Awards — one might conclude American dads are culturally valued.

Look again. The mothers in these films are comatose, divorced or dead. It’s no coincidence. From Atticus Finch to today, there’s an unspoken Hollywood rule that fathers can’t shine too brightly in the face of active mothering. Dads are more likely to be accorded respect when they are “coping” — in effect, when they are surrogate mothers.

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Saturday
Jun162012

Fathers4Justice UK Launch Father's Day Olympic Ad in Times Newspaper

This advertisement appeared on page 37 of the Times Newspaper. Today Fathers4Justice are holding a Father's Day Service at Trafalgar Square to protest against the secret British family courts that routinely separate children from good loving fathers.

For more information go to facebook.com/Fathers4Justice.